Book Reviews: Crazy Busy by Kevin DeYoung, plus the best of 2013

If you’re looking to put together a summer reading list, here are five ideas to get you started. These are some of the best books I’ve read in 2013. Enjoy!

Book Cover - Crazy BusyCrazy Busy by Kevin DeYoung (Hard copy | eBook)
Kevin DeYoung is one of my favourite Christian writers, mostly because his books are thoroughly biblical. He refuses to use Scripture superficially, but digs deeply and carefully into the riches of the Bible in all his books. In doing so, he helps you see how to handle the Bible for yourself. On top of that, he is just a flat-out good writer, particularly because he gets that clarity (not obscurity) is a virtue for anyone wanting to expound the Bible and help people to understand the things of God.

The title of his latest book, Crazy Busy: A (Mercifully) Short Book About a (Really) Big Problem, probably grabs your attention without much help. If you don’t know what it is to feel crazy busy, then rejoice and be glad – and skip this book. But if you’re among the other 95% of the population, then it’s absolutely worth your time. DeYoung doesn’t just dig through the Bible to find some self-help bromides to aid us in our busyness. Instead, he goes back to basics, addressing the theological roots of why our lives feel so manic, yet managing to apply his findings to real-life situations like parenting, setting good priorities, and monitoring your use of technology. The publishers have also produced some excellent resources at crazybusybook.com (including a study guide) which will help book clubs or staff teams wanting to read the book together. Continue reading

The Secret of Contentment

We all struggle with the constant desire to compare ourselves to others. LIZ ROBSON shows us how to break free of the comparison game and look on ourselves with ‘sober judgment’.

Apples OrangesWe live in an age where the lure of comparison is more enticing than ever before. Facebook tells us what hundreds of people are doing at any given moment.  We have Instagram and Twitter to monitor the world’s every move, and there’s nothing quite like a little bit of Pinterest envy on the side. Now, thanks to Skype, we have to even consider how we present ourselves while making a telephone call! Continue reading

Jesus on healing broken relationships

We should always take the first step to fix our damaged relationships, no matter which side of the breakdown we’re on

Healing RelationshipsThere’s an old cliché in Christian circles – often said half-jokingly, but through quietly gritted teeth: “I love everything about Christian ministry apart from people.” It’s a cliché laced with bitter irony because, of course, so much of the Christian life and ministry is about people and relationships. Yet it acknowledges the painful reality that relationships are always difficult, because people are always flawed and sinful. We all make mistakes. We hurt others, and we get hurt.

The Bible is the most realistic of books, dealing directly and honestly with the reality of our sin. And that means it contains forthright, practical wisdom on handling broken relationships. Continue reading

A Breaking Bad Idea

Is it healthy or wise for Christians to watch and enjoy a program so deeply laced with violence and darkness?

ImageIn case you were living in a cave and missed it, last month featured a genuine ‘television event’: the final episode of Breaking Bad. Though I’ve never seen a single episode, it was enough of a sensation to capture my attention and leave me with some big questions.

My first experience of the show came when I was browsing some DVDs in a store last year, saw the cover for Season 1, and thought, ‘Why is Bryan Cranston standing there in his undies?’ I read the back cover and shrugged: chemistry teacher is diagnosed with cancer, so decides to start making methamphetamine to provide for his family – a slightly strange (even unpleasant) topic, some potential, but nothing special. Continue reading

Depression and the Christian: A collection of resources

Where to turn when you face this battle

DepressionAt some point in life, we will all deal with depression. Whether it’s a personal battle, or something that afflicts a spouse, a child, a pastor, a friend – if this issue is not real for you now, then it will be one day. For that reason, I’ve asked around for some help to compile a collection of resources that offer a biblical perspective on dealing with depression and mental illness. I haven’t read most of these myself, so I can’t recommend them all personally, but based on trusting those who’ve offered the recommendation, I have a high level of confidence that they’ll be of help to you, and others. Continue reading

Persevering in Evangelism: Reflections on a godly stranger

Don’t give up sharing your faith in Jesus, even when it seems like a waste of time

Beautiful FeetOver the last couple of weeks, I’ve been thinking about Russell. Not Russell from Up! (probably my favourite Russell); not ‘evil Russell’ from Survivor (probably my least favourite Russell); and not the short, freckly kid who thought it would be funny to climb the tallest tree at school and tie my bag up there when I was in Year 9 (probably somewhere in between the other two Russells).

The Russell I’ve been thinking about is a man who changed my life. But I don’t even know his last name, and I met him just once, more than 15 years ago. Continue reading

How to poison your relationships in one easy step: Always assume the worst

Why assuming the worst about other people’s motives is so deadly – and how we can break the cycle.

Keep Calm Assume NothingFew things are as complicated, contentious or corruptible as our motives. French thinker Francois de la Rochefaucauld captured the reality of the human condition when he said, “We would frequently be ashamed of our good deeds if the world could see the motives that produced them.” Samuel Johnson summed up the heart of the problem even more succinctly: “Actions are visible, but motives are secret.”

The Bible is littered with warnings about our motives. When informing Samuel that David was his choice for King of Israel, God told him: “The LORD sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart.” (1 Sam 16:7) Much of Jesus’ Sermon on the Mount is spent warning his hearers against doing outwardly impressive acts with inwardly corrupt motives (Matt 6:1-18). And in Paul’s celebrated (but often misunderstood) chapter on love, 1 Corinthians 13, he tells us that even the best actions are worthless if done without love. Continue reading

God, the Christian and sport

When I first left school, I wanted to be a journalist. Some people pursue a career in the media because they want to change the world. An aspiring journalist might see the power of words, or the possibilities of capturing ‘history in the making’, and so set out on the journalistic path with noble aims.

Sadly, and embarrassingly, my aims weren’t quite so noble. I wanted good seats at the footy.

There was probably a bit more to it than that, but my basic motivation at the time was something like this: “I love sport.  Look at those guys on the radio and writing all those articles in the paper. They get paid to go and watch sport – wow! What a life! What could possibly beat that?!” It was the height of maturity I could muster at age 17, I’m afraid.

That was half my life ago, and by God’s grace pretty much everything has changed for me since then. But one thing has stayed absolutely the same: I love sport.

Sport and I go way back. I’ve been a fan of pretty much everything sport-related for literally as long as I can remember. Some of my earliest memories are saving my pocket money to buy a South Sydney Rabbitohs yo-yo, the joy of heading off with my Dad to watch the cricket or the footy, and being allowed to stay up late (or get up early) to watch the big sporting events being beamed in from England.

Playing it, watching it, reading about it, chatting about it, whinging about it, rejoicing over it, compensating for my lack of actual ability by playing it on the computer – you name it, I’m there. I’m not even sure why I love sport so much. I have some theories, but it’s really not all that logical.

Get the point? Sport = good.

So whatever happened to my childish childhood ambition? To make a long story short, I did study communications and worked in various media roles for a few years. But right around the time I finished studying, I became a Christian. That helps with all kinds of things, including growing up. My ambitions changed, and God graciously took my life in a very different direction. I ended up going to theological college and becoming a Christian pastor.

But because my love of sport remains, it leaves me with big questions: What does God think about this whole topic, which consumes so much time and conversation for me, and for a large number of my friends, family and congregation members? Does he care about it at all? Is God a Wallabies or an All Blacks fan? (Well, maybe not that last one…)

(Before going any further, here’s my pitch for all the non-sports fans to keep reading (I know, this is one of those topics where you can lose people quickly). Reading this might help you to understand someone you know (and love?) just a little bit better. It might help you to understand either the sins that someone else is struggling with, and/or the issues they’re thinking through, and/or how they spend their leisure time, and/or the blessings that come to them through their love of sport. It might help you to engage with your culture a little better. Unconvinced? No worries, see  you later – thanks for making it this far! 🙂

For some people, sport and theology are like oil and water: they just really don’t mix. Or if they do, it goes about as far as being happy that a Christian athlete mentioned God in their speech after the SuperBowl. One comment I read on a blog recently said, “Watching and playing sports is fun. Athletes aren’t gods, shouldn’t be treated as gods, and are fallen human beings just like the rest of us. Is there really that much more to it?”

I’ve noticed recently that Christian books pour forth at a great rate on all kinds of subjects, especially on most aspects of ‘pop culture’. It’s pretty trendy to consider what the Bible says about the music we listen to and the shows we watch, or to review every new movie from a Christian point of view. But there is really very little material out there on the topic of sport – which is strange, considering how many people are united by having some level of interest in (or obsession with) sport.

So is there really that much more to it? I’m sure the answer is yes, there is a lot more to it. God is the God of everything, and he cares about everything that goes on in his world. As the name of this website says, we are to take ‘every thought captive’ to Christ – including the ones that go through our head while we watch or play our favourite sport.

But what does God think about sport? That’s what I’m going to try to work out.

So over the coming weeks (or months, depending on time constraints, etc), my hope is to post some thoughts on this blog that develop my theological thinking on the topic of sport. How does sport fit in with God’s big plans and purposes in the world right now, focusing on Jesus Christ and his gospel going out? What does the Bible teach us about sport (apart from 1 Tim 4:8)? What does God think about this thing that I spend so much time watching, talking about, enjoying, lamenting over?

No conclusions for now, just raising the idea and setting out some basic plans. I already have a bunch of ideas of the kinds of things that might be relevant, but if you’ve made it this far and have thoughts on what would be worth reading, I’d really love to hear your comments. What aspects of ‘God, the Christian and sport’ would it be most helpful for you to think about?

Now I’ve gotta run. Gotta check today’s NBA scores before bed…

Not even a hint

I’m a bit slow with things like this, but the first time I realised there was a problem was when I looked at the Facebook status of a good friend of mine. A Christian woman. A godly woman. A smart, switched-on woman with a lot going for her. But her status said, “I like it on the…” (I’ll keep it general, to protect the guilty).

I thought someone had hacked her Facebook account.

But then I scrolled down. One woman after another, telling me where they “like it.”

It’s about then that I started to figure out there was some viral marketing campaign at work. It was a little while longer before I bothered to find out what the campaign was about. But it wasn’t until the next day that it really struck me: this was a highly sexualised, and therefore completely inappropriate, attempt to draw attention to a very real issue for women.

In case you missed the whole thing, someone dreamed up the idea of letting people know that October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month by encouraging women to update their Facebook status to say, “I like it…”. You were meant to finish the sentence with the place you like to keep your handbag – ‘but keep it a secret from the men’ (insert girlish giggle). The reason it would successfully raise awareness is that it would all sound sexually suggestive, and would therefore grab people’s attention. I suppose the idea was that people would then ask, “Hey, what’s with all the ‘I like it…’ status updates?” To which you’d reply, “Well, it’s breast cancer awareness month, you see…”

And well done you – you’ve just done your bit to raise awareness of breast cancer.

But here’s the problem it took me a while to see: You’ve also done your bit to contribute to the sexualisation of breast cancer, and to the overall sexualisation of women that is rampant in our society (especially young women, the dominant users of Facebook).

There are two reasons I’m bothering to object to this. The first is by far the least important. Whoever was behind this ‘clever’ marketing ploy is really not clever at all. They’ve just pandered to the lowest common denominator of sex. A trained monkey could’ve done that. It’s lazy, and in the process it makes them part of a big problem.

The great thing about social media like Facebook is that it’s now so easy to genuinely raise awareness of something like Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Why not get women to post somerthing like (as one friend of mine did), “Breast cancer is the leading cause of cancer death in women between the ages of 15 and 54, and the second leading cause of cancer death in women 55 to 74. Ninety-six percent of women who find and treat breast cancer early will be cancer-free after five years”?

If every woman on Facebook wrote that, you have actually done a great job of RAISING awareness of breast cancer – not just using sex to make people ask, “What the…?” Cut out the middle-man of unnecessary sexualisation, and achieve an even better result!

But beyond that, for me as a Christian (and as a Christian pastor), there was a much more worrying aspect to this: How many solidly Christian people seemed to go along with this campaign without a second thought. In short, it showed how many Christians are swallowing the world’s way of thinking about sex.

Maybe there’s someone out there who was blissfully naive enough to not see the blatant sexualisation involved. Maybe. But I doubt it. I suspect that for most people, they saw it as a harmless, innocent campaign that would achieve something good – and all the prudes out there can just get over it.

But therein lies the whole problem. It made me realise how deeply we as a society – and therefore we as Christians today – have succumbed to the sexualisation of anything and everything.

In Ephesians, the apostle Paul tells Christians in no uncertain terms that they must steer clear of this type of stuff. “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs.” (Ephesians 4:29)

He goes on: “But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.” (Ephesians 5:3)

I know all this might make me sound like a sexually-repressed prude. That’s alright with me. This campaign has made me realise something: I would rather give 50 people reason to believe I’m a sexually-repressed prude, than give one person reason to believe I support the sexualisation of women that goes on everywhere and leaves people deeply damaged.

Once my five-year-old daughter becomes aware enough to pick this stuff up, that’s most definitely what I want her to know (not to mention my two young sons…). They’ll figure out soon enough that I know sex is a great thing – a gift from God to be received with thanksgiving and enjoyed within marriage. But for now, I’ll risk being written off as old-fashioned and prudish if it means I can be part of the solution and not part of the problem.

I know on the surface this campaign was kinda harmless. But we can’t deal with problems like sexual immorality on the surface. We need to go deeper. We need to see that people are deeply hurt by giving in to our world’s view of sex, and Christians need to swim against the stream with all their strength at this point.

We need to understand that the world is watching, our friends and neighbours are watching – and they’ll pay attention to Christians and to the gospel NOT when they think we’re really just the same as them after all, but when they see that we’re different! You don’t get to be the salt of the earth, the light of the world and a city on a hill by giving in, one little bit at a time.

Christians have something far, far better to show the world: a view of sex that brings real freedom and lasting joy, revealed to us by the God who offers forgiveness and healing to all who seek it, through the cross of Jesus.

Not even a hint…!

Don’t waste the earthquake

A few years ago, an American pastor named John Piper was diagnosed with prostate cancer. As he awaited surgery, he wrote an article called ‘Don’t waste your cancer’, hoping that people in his church (and beyond) would learn to see times of suffering and trial through God’s eyes – maybe even as a blessing from God.

Stealing John Piper’s title seemed appropriate at a time like this. Yet trying to make sure we ‘don’t waste the earthquake’ may seem like a strange – or even offensive – way of thinking.

For one thing, it assumes that we should aim for more than just ‘getting over’ the earthquake and its impact on us. But it also assumes something else, something much bigger: that the quake was actually part of God’s will for Christchurch – something designed and intended by him, for our ultimate good.

This kind of thinking will be a huge leap for many people. Of course, we thank God that there was no loss of life in the quake, and that we’ve seen his goodness in so many ways over the last couple of weeks. But are we prepared to take the next step and reflect on why this happened, and what God wants us to learn from it? Could we even get to the point where we are ready to thank God for the earthquake? Should we?

In his book The Problem of Pain, C.S. Lewis wrote: “God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our consciences, but shouts in our pains: it is His megaphone to rouse a deaf world.” Lewis was getting at the idea that God is not absent during times of hardship. On the contrary, God sovereignly uses those times for the good of his people. This perspective matches with what the Bible itself tells us. For example, “we know that for those who love God all things [not just the enjoyable things, or some things – but specifically all things] work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” (Rom 8:28)

My aim here is not to offer an exhaustive reflection on suffering and evil in this world. There are so many questions and areas of thought that we can’t even raise here, and I hope that doesn’t leave you frustrated. Remember, keep reading the Bible, keep praying, and keep talking about these issues together!

Also, while Liz and I have experienced the same feelings of fear and uncertainty as everyone else, I’m very aware of writing this as someone whose home has been almost completely unaffected. I know many of you have faced much harder times than we have over these last two weeks.

That being said, what I’m hoping to do here is simply offer a few reflections on what we can learn from the earthquake – how it might work together for good in God’s purposes, and how we can make sure we don’t waste it.

Probably the first thing we need to do is re-define ‘good’. None of us would have chosen the earthquake. But then again, none of us is God. And God’s ultimate good for us is not that we live in secure houses with running water. God’s will for our lives is much bigger: he wants us to grow in holiness and godliness (1 Thess 4:3); to love and treasure him above everything in the world (Psalm 73:25-26; Matt 22:37-38); to become more and more like Jesus (Romans 8:29).

We could go on and on, but the point is this: what matters most to God is not always what matters most to us. All too often, we focus on what is temporal, earth-focused and human-centred; God focuses on what is eternal, heaven-focused and Christ-centred.

So if we understand ‘good’ in these kinds of ways, how has the earthquake been a good thing? What should we focus on to make sure we ‘don’t waste the earthquake’? Here are some suggestions to get us started.

We will waste the earthquake if it doesn’t remind us how much we need each other. When God saves us, he doesn’t leave us on our own. As well as pouring out his Spirit, he gives us one another and calls us to belong to a local church where we are members of ‘the body of Christ’ (1 Cor 12:27), using our gifts to serve one another in love. Galatians 6:10 says, “as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers.” 1 John 3:18 tells us we should “not love with words or tongue, but with actions and in truth.”

The earthquake is a powerful reminder of just how much we need one another, and that we are actually God’s gift to one another. It reminds us that God gives us other Christians so that, together, we can persevere as his people and run the race marked out for us. It reminds us that we should never take ‘church’ or Christian relationships for granted.

To be honest, I think this is one area where St Stephen’s as a parish is generally strong – and I thank God for that. But as we support each other through this time, remember that what’s needed is more than (though not less than) providing a meal or offering a spare room to a friend. Pray for each other! Pray with each other! Pray that God would help us to fix our eyes on what is eternal, not just on what is temporal. Weep together and share your fears, but always aim to point each other back to our great God and Saviour, our refuge and our strength and our ever-present help in times of trouble. Let’s use our conversations and our practical shows of support in ways that encourage one another to stay focused on Jesus.

We will waste the earthquake if we don’t let it show us, once and for all, that “a man’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions” (Luke 12:15). Read through the parable in Luke 12:16-21. We should thank God that we’ve received this reminder without anyone’s life being demanded from them! But we will waste the earthquake if we don’t “seek God’s kingdom” and pursue “treasure in heaven that can never be exhausted” more zealously than ever before (Luke 12:31, 33). We will waste the earthquake if we don’t heed Jesus’ warning in Mark 8:36: “What does it profit a man to gain the whole world and forfeit his soul?”

On top of that, situations like this remind us of how to handle the anxieties of life: entrust ourselves to our loving heavenly Father, and seek first his kingdom. I wrote about Matthew 6:19-34 in last Sunday’s ‘Weekly Word’, so won’t go into any details here. But what a wonderful passage to remind us of God’s very real care for us, and the need to store up ‘treasures in heaven’ instead of ‘treasures on earth’! Every earthly treasure we have lost in the earthquake should remind us of our heavenly treasure that can never be damaged.

We will waste the earthquake if we don’t realise how small and fleeting our own plans are, and how much we depend on God to direct the course of our lives. Think back to this time three weeks ago. What plans did you have for the rest of the month? The rest of the year? What’s happened to those plans now?

In James 4, we read a warning directed at those who forge ahead with their own ambitions while forgetting God’s sovereignty over their lives. “Now listen, you who say, ‘Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.’ Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. Instead, you ought to say, ‘If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that’.” (James 4:13-15).

Sometimes, when people ask me about my plans, I remember to add a token ‘God-willing’ at the end. It’s always been little more than a throwaway line. But in one moment, at 4.35am on September 4th, we were all shown the foolishness of trusting ourselves and our carefully organised schedules and plans. No doubt, many of our plans and priorities will slowly come back into focus as our city and our lives return to normal. But whatever plans we make, don’t forget who’s really in charge: “In his heart a man plans his course, but the Lord determines his steps.” (Prov 16:9)

There’s one final point worth making. In the face of earthquakes and other natural disasters, we can be prompted to ask questions like, ‘Is this God’s judgment on us? Was God punishing our city?’

In Luke 13, Jesus is asked about a tragedy where some Galileans had been killed as they offered their sacrifices. In answering, he referred to a ‘natural disaster’ in which 18 people had died. Here’s his response:

“Do you think that these Galileans were worse sinners than all the other Galileans because they suffered this way? I tell you, no! But unless you repent, you too will all perish. Or those eighteen who died when the tower in Siloam fell on them – do you think they were more guilty than all the others living in Jerusalem? I tell you, no! But unless you repent, you too will all perish.” (Luke 13:2-5)

We live in a creation that is subject to groaning and decay because of our sin. In a general sense, what happened on Saturday morning was part of living in such a world. But we have no reason to say that God was specifically punishing Christchurch, or anyone in Christchurch, on September 4th. We simply cannot draw a direct connection between particular sins (or sinners) and a particular natural disaster. There’s a word for that kind of thinking: karma. It’s not how God runs his world.

And yet, when we see first-hand the brokenness of our world, what a terrible waste if we fail to examine ourselves and repent of the sin in our own lives! What a waste if we fail to pray for those around us who don’t yet know Jesus, and who need to hear Jesus’ call to repent! What a waste if we fail to pray that the earthquake would serve as a ‘megaphone’ to rouse us from our spiritual slumber, or if we fail to pray that people’s eyes would be opened to what really matters in life, so that they would be prompted to consider the gospel in a fresh way. What a waste if we do not seek out opportunities to tell people of the reason for the sure and certain hope that we have.

There is still so much to be done as we pick up the pieces together and as we process all that’s happened. But let’s not forget, this earthquake is an opportunity. Don’t waste it!